Allison … 51 years old … Like so many women at this time in their lives, who are married and have families wanted to make some changes. She expressed that it was time for her to let go of doing and being everything for everybody and give more responsibility to the people around her. She wanted to be more accepting of her relationship with her husband and her friends and learn to take care of herself first. So many people, women especially, come to me with this desire. Although some may argue that it is selfish, it is quite the contrary. It is so important to take care of ourselves and be our best selves. That is the way we can contribute most to this planet. Being and feeling our best not only sets an amazing example for others but it puts us in a position to be of service when given the opportunity. Allison also wanted to find work that gave her joy and the freedom to be around for her family.
The usual first step, after clarifying what Allison’s true heartfelt desires were, was to explore what aligns her with her inner peace and “harmony”. Through this process we discovered information that was important for Allison to move forward. The first piece of the puzzle was for Allison to be willing to let go of the old ways of doing things. That was already a breath of fresh air. We talked about the theory on airplanes when they say in an emergency put your mask on first before you help the people around you. You have to take care of yourself first in order to help others. It was like a whole new world opened up when Allison began to allow herself to put that theory into practice in her daily life.
Allison loved nature. She began to take daily walks on the beach. She came to realize that this was a happy and peaceful place for her. Because of her openness and joy on this journey, she met an elderly woman on the beach who shared some wisdom that helped her move forward even more.
Allison also knew that being of service to others brought her happiness. We discussed many career options and narrowed it down to her top three. Allison had a teaching degree. She loved working with the elderly and was interested in the food and beverage industry. She began to explore these careers one at a time. She picked working with the elderly first. There were many avenues and although they all seemed promising at first, they were very demanding. Next, she explored the food industry. There were great opportunities but none of them provided the freedom in her schedule that she was looking for. And lastly, she explored going back to teaching. She became a substitute teacher. And this position gave her all the things she was looking for. The flexibility in her schedule and the opportunity to be of service in classrooms with children with special needs was the perfect fit.
Not only did going back to work provide her with more of the things she needed, it also created a chance for the people around her to become more independent. As Allison began to develop herself, it naturally changed the dynamics in all her relationships. She felt more accepting of herself which spilled over into feeling more accepting of others.
Allison’s story is an example of how allowing oneself to honor what is important to them is a powerful tool towards effectiveness.
Allison - Working with Sheree has been truly enlightening. In the process of our sessions, I have learned to assess myself and work on a life that is healthier and happier for me. With tendencies of pleasing everyone all the time, I am learning to satisfy myself and find a place that will keep me fulfilled. Whether […]