My client Mark who is a successful doctor (internist) was 60 years old when he came to me. He is an acquaintance of mine. One day he got curious about life coaching and what it might offer him. We set up a time to meet and explore how life coaching could benefit him.
In our exploratory session we clarified some key things that were important to Mark. These are 1. to have a healthier lifestyle which included changing his diet and exercise. 2. Retiring and spending a good portion of his time playing the piano (a hobby he loved). 3. Having more fun in his life.
As the process continued we worked to discover why these things would bring Mark the feeling of peace and “harmony” that he was seeking. By working through some stories and getting to the core of what makes him happy we were able to determine that inner peace for Mark included spending time in nature and connecting with nature. He was moved by music and connected to a lot of people through playing and listening to music. Relationships and being of service were also very important to him. What to do with this information was the next step.
Knowing in theory what makes you happy and implementing it are two different things. Mark, who was motivated to making sustainable changes, started one step at a time. That is part of the beauty of life coaching. You can only do one thing at a time. . like climbing a ladder one step at a time. And before you know it, you make it to the top of the ladder. His first step was to discuss retirement with his partner. He wanted to be a team in this decision. His partner was on board so one step at a time the process continued. Some of the steps included speaking to their financial advisor, figuring out a plan for his patients, picking a time that made sense for this process.
While that process continued, Mark remembered he loved being outside and made an effort to start going for more bike rides. He also joined a yoga class which created some socialization, connection and fun for him. All things that really gave Mark that feeling of “living in harmony” with himself. Mark also liked to cook. Little by little Mark had some extra free time as he gradually wound down with his business. So he started taking over some of the meals and cooking very healthfully. With all this exercise and change of diet, Mark was looking and feeling great.
Eventually retirement came into being and afforded Mark opportunities to master his craft of playing the piano while still allowing time for volunteer work, exercise, socializing and even some fun travel.
Mark showed amazing focus and patience. By clarifying and breaking down his goals, along with taking the time to proceed one step at a time, he was able to create a whole new chapter in his life.