The most important gift you can give anyone or give the world is your own joy and happiness. Part of living a conscious life is knowing that you are in charge of your experiences. So why wouldn’t you choose to be happy?
In 2006 a movie called “The Secret” came out. It was based on the law of attraction. The idea of the law of attraction is that people and their thoughts are both made from “pure energy”, and what we think about is what we attract into our lives. In other words, if we’re focusing on something positive, we will attract more positive things in our lives, and if we’re having negative thoughts, we will attract more negativity into our lives.
So what stops us from choosing to be happy? Through the years I’ve noticed a lot of resistance from my clients and people I meet, to being happy. Usually the resistance turns out to be that something is lacking in their life and they’ll be happy when they get that “thing”.
I call this the “I’ll be happy when” syndrome. When you’re caught in that loop you wind up postponing your happiness to when something you have in mind occurs at some future date.
My sister, who lives in Arizona, was here in Chicago last week visiting. One of our plans was to interview my parents about their lives growing up and video it. We started with my mom. Her first memories are of living in one room with a divider. The room was behind a cleaners that they ran. Her parents slept on a sofa bed on one side of the divider and she slept with her brother on the other side of the divider. There was a shared bathroom with only a sink and toilet, no shower or bath. One of the first things my mom said in the interview was that she didn’t know they were poor. She said her mother was always happy and made life fun for her. I remember my grandmother and she was always very loving and joyful. I felt very emotional when she shared that story and it’s an amazing example of the invitation I’m proposing today.
There are always going to more things we want. When we get the things we want now, then there will be a new list of things we want. It’s impossible to know specifically in this moment what we will want every moment for the rest of our lives. So, aligning with happiness right now allows us to flow with grace and ease and then make choices that make us feel joyful as we go along.
It doesn’t always have to be specific. You can just have a general idea about how you want to feel. You can consciously and intentionally choose to feel good and share your best selves with others even if __________________ (fill in the blank). It’s OK to let go of the gap between having the things you want and being happy. You can just be happy in this moment and that will allow each day to present more opportunities for you to be happy. It has to be so. It’s the “law of attraction”.
I realize that what I’m saying isn’t always easy to implement, especially if you’re facing big challenges right now. But I promise that if you keep practicing consciously and intentionally choosing to enjoy life in any and every way that you can, even if it’s for brief moments at first, you’ll discover how amazing and empowered you’ll begin to feel.
I love this metaphor and use it often. It’s like being in an airplane. You start on the ground and take off and rise above the clouds. Everything is still happening on the ground. But as you sit above the clouds, you can choose to relax and enjoy the ride.
Like everything, it takes willingness and practice. Know that you are worthy and deserving of being happy. Whenever we open our hearts, especially to ourselves, and connect with our inner joy, that’s our most natural state.
I hope you all will accept my invitation to be happy. I know that connecting with all of you makes me very happy. I’m grateful to have each and every one of you in my life to share this journey with me.
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Sending you all so much love and big hugs,